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Vasectomy or Not?

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This post is a little out of my ordinary, but my life is a little out of the ordinary so bear with me.  It’s a post about vasectomies.  I know, not a typical subject but an interesting one that I really began thinking about when it was brought to my attention; specifically thinking about within the realm of my Christian beliefs.  Someone mentioned to me recently that they believe that a Christian man should not have a vasectomy procedure because it is sinful.  I never really thought about it one way or the other so my gut reaction was to question why?  To which their reasoning was along the lines of, when you alter your body in such way as to control God in regards to the creation of life, it is sinful.  I replied, “If a vasectomy is sinful, then all birth control falls under that reasoning: the pill, the shot, tubal litigation, condemns, gels, all in the same category because all of these methods are attempting to control whether or not life is created” to which this person agreed.  

 I thought about this a little more throughout the day, and when looking at it Biblically there are verses that mention how we should treat our bodies.  First, Leviticus 19:28, “You shall not make any cuts on your body for the dead or tattoo yourselves: I am the Lord.” Or 1 Timothy 2:9 Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire,” and Deuteronomy 14:1 “You are the sons of the Lord your God. You shall not cut yourselves or make any baldness on your foreheads for the dead.” 

 Most Christians would argue that these verses were either culturally relevant at the time or that the chosen  people were under the old testament law and therefore these laws were abolished with the new covenant of redemption written upon our hearts with the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus Christ.  So we have these verses on how we are to treat our bodies and then very few verses on the actual issue of birth control. Obviously people didn’t have birth control as we do in the 21st century and children were viewed very differently than they are now.  It was a privilege and an honor to be able to bear as many offspring as possible and those who were unable to bear children were pitied and looked down upon within society.  Psalm 127:3-5 says, “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate.” The only Bible verse that deals with the birth control issue is the one people turn to often suggesting that God is against birth control found in Genesis 38:8-10, “Then Judah said to Onan, ‘Go in to your brother's wife and perform the duty of a brother-in-law to her, and raise up offspring for your brother.’ But Onan knew that the offspring would not be his. So whenever he went in to his brother's wife he would waste the semen on the ground, so as not to give offspring to his brother. And what he did was wicked in the sight of the Lord, and he put him to death also.” This verse could be interpreted many different ways and it’s pretty presumptions of those against birth control to take it at such a one slanted angle. 

If we run with the premise that altering our bodies in such a way to control God’s will is evil, then we need to not only look at birth control but a whole host of other things that we do to alter our bodies.  For instance, I had three C-sections; those were not in God’s original design for how a woman should bear a child.  Had I not had C-sections I would have most likely died during child birth along with my unborn child.  Is this not altering God’s will for life and death?  What about my son being shunted at birth to prevent the buildup of cerebrospinal fluid in his head performed by a Christian doctor who was given wisdom from his Maker?  He also would have in all likelihood died without that life altering procedure. Those who need pacemakers?  or chemo, or radiation, or drugs?  Where do we draw the line between what is acceptable life altering procedures and what is not?  To prevent life from being created versus the medical techniques we have in place that prevent life from being destroyed, is there a difference?  In my opinion, the Bible leaves it pretty open ended without a definite yes or no answer which can be frustrating for some.  I believe it boils down to this, 1 Corinthians 6:19-20 “Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”  There aren’t always cut and dry answers for every situation; therefore, we need to bring our individual needs to our Maker who will lead and guide us, but we also need to be open to hearing His will for OUR life and not necessarily the lives of all those around us. 

Just keep livin!

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