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Sex and Pride... What wins?

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What is sin?   

Webster defines it as any actregarded such as a transgression, especially a willful or deliberateviolation ofsome religiousor moral principle or any reprehensible or regrettable action, behavior,lapse, etc.; great fault or offense. The Bible defines sin as transgression of the law of God (1 John 3:4) and rebellion against God (Deuteronomy 9:7; Joshua 1:18). So according to both of these definitions sin is a direct violation of some sort of moral code; specifically for Christians that moral code is the word of God, the Bible.  The Bible lists many sins throughout its pages. There are Old Testament sins that fall under the Levitical law which to many modern day believers are not something that we adhere to anymore due to the saving grace of Jesus Christ. But, just because we have the saving grace of Christ doesn’t mean that we, of the modern age, are exempt from all sins - some are just not applicable to our culture and society; examples such as having concubines, piercings, or braided hair.  There is still sin that the Bible speaks of but because of Christ’s sacrifice at Calvary we are no longer subject to the punishment that it entails when we believe that Jesus Christ took it all upon himself and forgave us of our wrong doings.  We do still have a part to play in that redemption though our acceptance of the fact that we are sinners and also our acceptance of his free gift of grace.  To break it down, the major difference between the Old and New Testaments in the Bible is this; in the Old Testament sins that were committed had to be atoned for in some way or another, by a sacrifice of some sort - usually a blood sacrifice.  In the New Testament under the new covenant, the sacrificial Lamb of God, Jesus Christ, is the all atoning sacrifice for our sins – IF we personally accept what He did at Calvary.  In thinking further about sin in our culture today, I’d say that there are sins that Bible believing Christians would and do often place at the top of a sin list if there were such a list.  For example, drugs, alcohol, and smoking; these addictive sins we look down upon, for the people who associate with these behaviors as probably not being very Christ like.  Then there are the sex sins: pornography, rape, incest, homosexuality, premarital sex, and adultery. Again, if you are living in sin in one of these areas, you are probably not going to get the Christian stamp of approval from most churches.  Granted, some of these listed are much worse in terms of harm done to others but nonetheless, they are all viewed as sinful behavior according to the Bible.   Then there are the little sins like, gossip, lying, slander, pride, stealing, taking the Lord’s name in vain, lust, obesity, petty little things that as Christians we tend to not give a whole lot of attention to because these are the sins that we are most familiar with; these are the sins that we are comfortable with in our OWN daily lives. Yes, our lives, so why in the world would we want to draw attention to something that we struggle with?  I, for one, can see eight sins mentioned in these lists that I have struggled with.  Yes, 8 of them, some  I am tempted with often and some very infrequently, but still they are temptations that I need to overcome  in my life.   A  homosexual  or an adulterous lifestyle, that must be sinning as many Christians proclaim very loudly and adamantly, but the soloist in the church choir who lives a lifestyle of gossip and slander and who never feels conviction about her incessant need to share anything and everything with anyone and everyone, now that’s an entirely different category, right? Or, the occasional pot smoker who needs to settle her nerves due to a physically  abusive situation that she can’t escape versus the morbidly obese deacon who eats fast food morning, noon, and night to the point of having one heart surgery after another.  Very, very different sins in the eyes of the Lord, correct?  The man who drinks a few beers every night versus the couple watching an R rated movie full of sex, drugs, and violence?  Or the arrogant, puffed up evangelist full of pride strutting about in his $5000 suits driving a Mercedes Benz to his next big meeting where massive crowds will affirm and exult him over and over again as God’s faithful servant compared to the 20 year old having premarital sex with his 17 year old girlfriend. Where is the line? Are some petty in God’s eyes while the others, well, those are hell and damnation sins? Is there a list in Heaven detailing the sins from the worst of the worst to the not so bad ones that you can occasionally commit as a Christian?   Interestingly enough, the Bible makes 6 references’ to homosexuality in contrast to 73 mentions of taming our tongues, and I found 25 blatant references to what God thinks about pride in our lives, “The Lorddetests all the proud of heart.” Proverbs 16:5. Detest is a pretty strong word for what God thinks about that sin; something I will be writing about in a post soon.  I can’t actually find any verses in the Bible related specifically to marijuana and drug usage other than the verses pertaining to our bodies being the temple of the Holy Spirit and the self-control verses; however, verses related to gluttony are numerous, 9 that I could find, all relating specifically to gluttony and many, many other verses related to our bodies being temples of the Holy Spirit and again self-control. I’m not saying that all of these are not sins in the eyes of the Lord; I am saying that as Christians we better start recognizing the planks in our own eyes and focus on our own shortcomings in the eyes of the Lord before we spill hellfire and damnation on the rest of the world – who by the way is not held to the same standard as we are if we profess the name of Christ.  We also need to recognize that the saving grace and mercy of Jesus Christ, who came to be our sacrificial lamb, is the only judge worthy of any judgment and anyone who proclaims his Lordship over their life needs to be eternally grateful for their own escape from a very much deserved damnation and stop pointing fingers at the shortcomings of many others.
Just keep livin!!
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    Carol McMurry Monday, September 17, 2012

    Preach it Jess. I have often said we may be surpri...

    Preach it Jess. I have often said we may be surprised at who we see in heaven, I for one am grateful for his grace so that I can be there. Also glad that its not my job to judge just to love, I can handle that. Carol

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    Jess+the Mess Monday, September 17, 2012

    Thanks Carol! I actually cringed a little seeing ...

    Thanks Carol! I actually cringed a little seeing a comment hoping I hadn't opened a bottle of worms! Ryan said it sounded a little preachy, I said, I can handle that, (I think:-)

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    Debbie Monday, September 17, 2012

    Maybe it is a little preachy, but, it's also t...

    Maybe it is a little preachy, but, it's also the truth. Sin is sin. We all do it. There are no degrees on sin, not in God's eyes. The difference lies in whether we are a christian or not a christian. If you are a christian, and you truly confess & repent of your sin, no matter what it is, God will forgive and it won't keep you out of heaven. If you are not a christian, you can't confess & repent,because God doesn't hear that confession or repentance, until you confession Jesus as your personal Savior and repent of your unbelief. I agree with Carol...I'm glad I don't have to be the judge and jury. Been through some things in my life that have taught me that God will take care of the unjustice in His way and in His time......We just need to keep on loving the sinner!!!

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    Ali Monday, September 17, 2012

    I think this is really well written! You had me go...

    I think this is really well written! You had me going with the "big sins" and the "little sins", like lying... and I was thinking, hey, she's normally a really clever chica... and hey, lying is more destructive in more lives than some of those "big" sins... how is she ranking them?... and ha ha... I persevered and saw what you were doing! Well done Jess - you had me going, then you kept me going, and I actually ended up laughing at your clever delivery of this truth!Ali in Switz

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    Anonymous Monday, September 17, 2012

    Wanted to let you know that I enjoy reading about ...

    Wanted to let you know that I enjoy reading about your life, your blogs & some of your teachings/thoughts/opinions. I told my mom the other day that I got more out of the pianist short explaination of what was on her heart than I did the sermon that Sunday. Both were excellent but the way it was said (& the way my heart listened too, I'm sure!) hit me with what I needed that day. I enjoy your posts because at times, explaining the word sometimes becomes a little more clear to me, or gets my mind to think in a way it hasn't before. Bless your heart for "the mess"& take satisfaction (NOT PRIDE, lol!) in being a strong, Christian woman who has lived a lot in your years & handled it with more grace, compassion & understanding than some could with a chipped nail or bad haircut! If it doesn't seem clear, keep on. You are doing something right, sweetheart! - KJ in OK

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    Anonymous Monday, September 17, 2012

    Ok Jess you'll have to tell me what sparked th...

    Ok Jess you'll have to tell me what sparked this. I have always felt this way. It is ever so important to work out my own sins...I know what a sinner I if I work on myself I don't have time to pick someone else apart. To me the big issue is to spread the Word. Jesus loves us and died for us. I worry that so many will never surrender to God. How much they will miss. I want everyone to be in heaven..,Keep writing. Love Mom Holly

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    Anonymous Tuesday, September 18, 2012

    Jess Love this post... I heard a church sermon whe...

    Jess Love this post... I heard a church sermon when I was under conviction living in sin and in church and it convicted me so much I still live by it today as a christian. On Judgement Day you are only responsible for you and what you have done or not done to build up the kingdom of GOD. You are responsible for your children. Not anyone else. SO I focus on what I do and what I need to do in my life and how I should live and teach my children. I am not reponsible for anyone else! Good message! Tam

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