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Do Fat People Go To Heaven?

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Now that I have your attention this post has very little to do with overweight people.  I have many friends whom I love dearly, myself included, who could lose a pound or two.  I initially struggled with the title and decided to go with it because the message, in my opinion, transcends the word selection.

I’ve heard this statement a time or two, “Jess, I LOVE your transparency on the blog, but I could never do it.  I don’t know how you put it all out there for the world.”  

I’ve been admonished to tone it down a bit.

I’m sure I’ve caused blushes among my family and friends.

Honestly, the thought of my family and friends reading some of what I write is much more difficult than the thought of random strangers reading it.

I often wish I wrote anonymously because then I wouldn’t be so scared of backlash.

And, as a good Christian woman do I really need to write about porn, sex, (Let's Talk Sex...) scantily clad women sucking on chicken tenders,(Fast Food Porn) and homosexuals?

Yes, I’m pretty sure I do. I want to be transparent in my life and that can include some strong opinions on how twisted our theological thinking can get sometimes. This is my mission field.  No one is ever truly changed with lies.  NEVER.  A person may be deceived for a moment, they may look up to a perception of holiness for a time, but when the darkness is brought to light, that whole façade comes tumbling down and at the end of the day, there is always more harm done than good.

I’ve been pressed to pick a side on many issues that I write about, lately, in particular, the homosexual issue in light of certain events surrounding World Vision, a charitable organization that has recently found itself in a sticky situation.  As I seek to understand the dilemma, (which is not a new topic by any means) I believe the heart of the issue boils down to this:

Can homosexuals be Christians in light of what scripture has to say about this lifestyle? This question then leading into the more prevalent issues of, can we have homosexuals in our pews? in church leadership? passing the offering plate?  I’ve written a bit on this before with the post Rob Bell, You Stinker...

Now let’s turn our attention to other lifestyles scripture has a few choice words on including that of gluttony, drunkards, and the use of our tongues.

Can a morbidly obese person go to Heaven? Can an obese person be a pastor?  Can an obese person pass the offering plate? How many times does a gossiper have a “get out of hell free” card?  How many drinks constitute a drunkard? Once a drunkard, never a saint? The Bible is extremely clear on these lifestyle choices, way, way clearer than it is on homosexual behavior.  

So again, there is no answer to that question for me.  

I am not perfect.  I drink too much wine on occasion (the rule is one glass per child, correct?) I have a mouth that can run.  I have a mouth that can cuss when it gets running.  I am way more just than I am merciful.  But above all of that I love the Lord with all my heart.  He is slowly but surely working out his plan and purpose in my life, and I have faith in that plan.  I beseech his wisdom and mercy often in the wake of trials, hardships, tribulations, or simply the child I cannot stand parenting in a particular moment.  

What I don’t understand are the trivial games we each play to appear holy, to appear spiritual to one another, to appear better than the homosexuals.  What’s confusing to me is the man who is adamantly opposed to drinking but doesn’t have a problem gambling.  The teenager who will not lose his virginity before marriage yet engages in every other form of sexual activity. The HR director for a major Christian charity organization who gorges herself on McDonalds every day to the point of being morbidly obese yet won’t hire a homosexual…

Our desire to appear holy should absolutely never trump our need to love others as ourselves. For some unknown reason in Christianity (certainly our sinful nature coming forth in all its glory) we have constructed these tiers of holiness for one another.    Gluttony, in our spiritual superiority, does not seem to be something that keeps a person out of Heaven, neither does gossip, but my goodness, if you struggle with homosexual tendencies you for sure aren’t getting in those pearly, white gates.   

So in regards to what side I’m on, I didn’t realize there was more than one side. My Bible says “all are sinners and fall short of the glory of God” so I guess I’m on that side, the side with the best of the sinners, the gluttons, the drunkards, gossipers, teenagers who go way too far, and even the homosexuals.  But my side has the added bonus of the ultimate “get out of jail free” card, a Redeemer who has held back nothing for me, even sacrificing his own life to pull me out of the muck and then even going so far as to seat me in Heavenly places. My redeemer's name is Jesus Christ, and thankfully there is no condemnation, no names, no tiers of holiness, no nothing, just straight up grace and mercy for those who put their faith in him.   That’s the side I’m on.

Just keep livin!!

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    Luann Saturday, March 29, 2014

    FREE online biblical resource re: gluttony

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    VT Friday, March 28, 2014

    I agree with Tom and Dayla. I was disturbed that it came off like it is okay to continue sinning. Not sure if that is how the writer meant it. We are called to be holy and live different lives. Ephesians 4:17-5:20.
    It is not OUR job to convict, it is the Holy Spirit's job. Our job is to bring people TO God.

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    Dayla Smith Friday, March 28, 2014

    The bible says All Have Sinned not all are sinners. It also states, He that sinneth (a continual act) is of the devil. So no, if you practice sinning you will not go to heaven. There is no 'get out of hell free' card. Someone who has unconfessed, unrepented, sin will go to that awful place called hell.

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    Tom Allan Friday, March 28, 2014

    The blog implies that the writer believes that homosexuality is a sin (I agree). The problem I have is that the writer says that all sins are equal so just keep on sinning the way you want to. Nobody - God or man - should judge you for it. How can anyone justify how a life-long, daily, never-ending "sin" is the same as a one-time mistake or lack of good judgement? Are we not called as Christians to follow hard after Him, do what Jesus would do, "go and sin no more". In other words, learn from our mistakes and always strive to be more like Jesus. If someone struggles with something (be it food, alcohol, porn, homosexual behavior, etc), realizes his/her shortcomings, and begins to work on change to be more like Jesus then we should absolutely surround that person and support them in every way possible. But if someone likes the sin they are committing, has no desire to change it, and even promotes the sin, why would I want to support and uplift that choice? I wouldn't advocate a drunk to keep drinking, a druggie to keep shooting up, a porn addict to join one more website. I would suggest they stay far away from those things, get help, ask forgiveness, work hard to change to be more like Jesus, and seek the Lord always. The writer indicates that gay people can and should continue in their sin (remember, she already agreed the bible says its a sin) and we should support them in their decision. I have a problem with that.

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    Chris Behne Thursday, March 27, 2014

    First of all, what is a Christian? A Christian is a person who believes in God, and accepts Jesus Christ as their personal savior. Being a Christian has nothing to do with a person's sexuality. Nor does a person's sexuality prevent them from accepting Jesus Christ. Secondly, God created each of us in His image, and he knew each of us in our mother's womb. Gay people do not choose to be gay....they are born that way, just like some are born heterosexual. I am heterosexual, but I don't know why....I just am. Black people didn't choose to be black...they just are. But God doesn't make mistakes, and he created straight people, gay people, blind people, deaf people, colored people. We are all created in his image, no matter what our color, or our sexuality. We are called to love others unconditionally, and a person's sexuality does not define them, and should not limit our love and acceptance of them. I have researched this a great deal in the last 3 months, and God has shown me his truth for me on this subject. The Bible was written thousands of years ago in ancient Greek language, that has been translated over and over again. In the ancient Greek culture and language, there were no terms for our current gay/lesbian relationships: long term, committed, loving monogamous relationships between people of the same sex. The term "abomination" had specific meanings in that ancient culture. Those meanings do not apply to our current culture and times. Literal Bible readers cannot accept this. But if you research it and realize what the ancient Greek words really meant, it changes how those words are translated into today's culture. It is a shame that the church has pushed gay people away. I just bought a book today "Torn: Rescuing the Gospel From the Gays vs. Christians Debate" by Justin Lee. Anxious to start it. Another book you could read is "What the Bible REally Says About Homosexuality". Opened my eyes. Anyway, enough of my preaching. Thanks for your insight.

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